5) It's ok to be a little depressed after your wedding. You just went anywhere from 6 months to 2 years being at the center of attention. Everything was catered to what you wanted for YOUR day. It's pretty easy to get used to that kind of treatment. After the wedding, you're no longer 'the bride' and you now get the frumpy "Matron of Honor" title in weddings. No more flower tosses at weddings. No more bachelorette fun. And the worst part: you're now considered a full time adult at family functions. This is a huge transition and it's totally normal to feel a little sad. Don't think you're failing at your newlywed spousal job, you're not.
4) .The first year of marriage is kind of like the opposite of that song in Beauty and the Beast "Something There"
"There's something sweet and almost kind
But he was mean and he was coarse and unrefined
But now he's dear, and so unsure
I wonder why I didn't see it there before"
Yeah, the opposite.
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2) Don't rush into roles. You don't have to be the happy housekeeper, the equivalent of Paula Deen in the kitchen, or Megan Fox in the bedroom. You'll find what roles work for you and your spouse. I actually enjoy cooking so that's the role I fell into (even though I swore I was not going to be some woman that was kept barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.) I'm also a lot more reliable with taking the trash out (Steven can't handle the smell) yet he is way more reliable than I am with paying bills. It's hard to not have pre-conceived notions of what role you'd like to fill in your marriage but just trying to keep an open mind will help relieve some of your stress.
1) Most importantly realize that you're going to hate your husband a little bit and he's going to hate you too. Not in the "want to do cruel things and deprive the person of good things" kind of hate. More the kind of hate like when you're trying to get your computer to work and you just keep getting the spinning rainbow circle of death. You're just waiting and waiting for it to work and Pandora quit so you don't even have music and FOR THE LOVE OF GOD YOU JUST WANT TO OPEN A STUPID POWERPOINT PRESENTATION!!! And then when it finally opens you realized you clicked the wrong one and it opened last week's physiology lecture and not this week's. That kind of hate. You can't live without it but if you could just throw the damn thing through the window one time you'd feel a lot better.Then once you get the file to open you remember how fantastic the thing is and don't know what your life would be like if you didn't have a computer. That kind of hate.
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