Saturday, July 7, 2012
If you haven't heard of 1flesh by now you must live under a rock (along with my husband who swears off the 'evil' internet). By their own description they are "a grassroots movement in opposition to the use of artificial contraception within marriage, dedicated to bringing great sex to the entire universe." Through the use of memes, infographics, and current vernacular they are bringing the message of 'a better way' to go about having sex to the youth of 'the entire universe.'
You can imagine how I would feel about them. Me, the crazy NFP lady, them, the crazy anti-contraceptives people, we're two peas in a pod. I adore them. Although they make think I'm a stalker. Anyways, this is exactly the kind of message that people said they were looking for in my "Where do we go from here?" post. 1flesh is updating the way people think about contraception, not through changing the content of the message just through changing its style. They took the message from Urkel to Stefan. Yeah, I said it.
Unfortunately not everyone feels as fondly about them as I do. Their Facebook page was reamed with comments about how they are dangerous, uneducated, ignorant, and religious fanatics. They've been blasted by the Friendly Atheist, Jezebel, and most recently the Huffington Post. The theme of all the critiques thus far has been "This is a dangerous website spreading misinformation! Teens will get pregnant and die solely because of this site!!" Wouldn't the sex ed teacher in Mean Girls be proud?
All of these critics are choosing to overlook that 1flesh is not turning a blind eye to the consequences of sex. (Ironically enough, that's something the critics do a pretty good job of themselves but I digress.) Instead 1flesh is promoting a better way. A way that equates men and women, objectifies no one, is the safest approach to sexual health, and has no adverse side effects, ya know like cancer or pulmonary embolisms.They're promoting abstinence until marriage and then natural family planning within it...which is pretty much the exact same as hoping people get STIs and pregnant in their teens.
I will admit that for my preference I wish they'd go more into the science of why hormonal contraceptives are so shitty but I realize not everyone has degrees in Biology, Chemistry, and Physical Science. The biochemistry I long for would be lost on others just as I'm sure all of the artistic talent and web design features (sorry Dan!) exemplified on the site are lost on me. All in all I love what 1flesh is doing. They've modernized the message to make it applicable and relevant to teens today. Their website is streamlined, comprehensive, and easy to use. It's very much along the lines of iuseNFP, so would you expect anything but love from me? ;-) If you want to share some love with them (and help drown out the flack) head to their site and thank them for what they're doing. I know they'll appreciate it!