I've come to the conclusion though that they are not a friend to women. They aren't the weird crazy aunt that no one really talks to but will always help you out when you're in a pinch and can't call your parents. They are not liberating. They are not empowering. Most importantly they are not the best option for women.
I refuse to believe that we are treated as equals in a world that says "You can't succeed if you have this child." I refuse to believe that abortion helps women. And I refuse to believe that it has done anything for women's rights. Equality and opportunity should be for all women, mothers or not.
Because of contraception and abortion we live in a world where being a stay at home mom is looked down upon. Because of these two "liberating" forces we live in a world where victim blaming is socially acceptable and women are thought of us "so stupid" for 'getting themselves pregnant.". We live in a world where getting pregnant is called a 'mistake' more than it is called a gift and is greeted with tears of sorrow and shame more often than those of joy.
I refuse to believe that the best the world has to offer women is abortion and birth control or not having a career. Motherhood and a career shouldn't be mutually exclusive. Feminism is not about being men. That is masculinism.
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I chose to believe in genuine femininity where women can choose to be the CEO of a Fortune 500 company and a mom or a stay at home mom and be completely fulfilled and always considered successful. I chose to believe that we do not have to disable our bodies in order to be as successful as a man. Likewise, I believe that success has many faces and very few of them lie in the corporate world alone.
Women deserve so much more than what radical "feminists" have settled for, which is being men. They've settled for a rigged game. If we're competing with men about who can be the most masculine we will lose every time. Instead we need to demand that world first accepts and respects women for what they are: feminine and then for what they accomplish.
"In fact, woman has a genius all her own, which is vitally essential to both society and the Church. It is certainly not a question of comparing woman to man, since it is obvious that they have fundamental dimensions and values in common. However, in man and in woman these acquire different strengths, interests and emphases and it is this very diversity which becomes a source of enrichment." -- Blessed Pope John Paul II, Angelus Address, 23 July 1995