A shitty old house? Yeah, that's exactly what we've got. But if you look at it with the right eye, you can see there's something there. That could be one beautiful house. So all of us NFP-ers have bought this house and we're trying to sell it to all the skeptical sisters and mother in laws out there that just see a POS. So what are our options?
Do Nothing: Screw 'em! If they can't see the beauty it's their loss. Theology of The Body speaks for itself and Humane Vitae is nothing short of prophetic. Why do we have to spell it out any more for people?
Paint the walls: We can try and spruce it up without doing that much grunt work. We can tell people "Look NFP is just as effective ok?" And not explain to them at all why it's different. We can make all the NFP buttons in the world but if we don't get to the heart of the problem, it's pretty futile.
Fix the necessities: Ok, the roof is caving in and there's a whole wall that I can see through. There are some big obvious problems with how NFP is perceived. So we can fix what we need to. Tell everyone we know to just read Humane Vitae and add links on every parish's website leading them to Fertility Care's website.
Gut it: Because come on, it needs it. Yeah there's a lot we need to do and it's going to take a lot of time, patience, compassion, love, and humility to show society the beauty behind the Church's teaching on Natural Family Planning, the empowerment that comes with knowing your cycle in and out, and the gift that it brings to your marriage. But isn't it worth it?
Tear it down and start again: The land isn't bad I guess. NFP isn't worth it. Let's scrap it and start anew. The church should just get with the times. Birth Control is all the rage, don't you know?
I'm sure my bias showed. What we've been doing is painting the walls and nobody's buying it. It still looks like a shitty house. We can fix the necessities but that just makes it livable, not fantastic. And starting anew is a joke because the beautiful teaching behind Natural Family Planning and Blessed John Paull II's teaching of the feminine genius is definitely worth the effort of revitalizing.
So it's going to be hard work and it's going to take a long time. We're probably going to look at the road ahead and straight up hate ourselves a little bit for ever embarking on it. Hearts won't be changed over night nor will nay sayers be silenced. It's going to take a lot of patience, love, and compassion (here's looking to you guys because I'm still working on those.) We need to be vocal about the alternatives to contraception without being overbearing though. We have to let people know there is a realistic alternative out there. Even more importantly though we need to love the lies, the hurt, and the fear out of our opponents.
It's going to be a long road folks, but fortunately we've got 2000 years practice behind us.