I often find myself trolling around the internet reading contraversial articles and devouring their comboxes. Now before you get all worked up, I rarely comment and when I do they are well thought out responses with correct spelling and grammar and always have my name attached. Honestly though I can only think of one time that I've contributed to the combox madness, promise. With the new HHS mandate about contraceptives running rampant in the news and the recent anniversary of Roe v Wade I've had a lot of trolling to do and this is my reaction.
Dear Pro-Choicer, Non-Catholic, Catholic using contraception, post abortive woman, and whomever else,
We were wrong. I hate admitting this but we were, we still are, and we're probably going to be go a while. No, we're not wrong on the issues. You can choose to disagree, in fact I know you do. This isn't supposed to change your mind. Blog posts aren't so great at doing that, at least not mine.
The point of this is to apologize. We have behaved poorly and when one makes a mistake the right thing to do is to apologize. We have no right to call you or anyone a slut, a whore, an idiot, a heathen, a bitch, a baby killer, or many of the other awful words often used to label you that I should not use for fear of losing some readers. We are called to be loving and compassionate people and when we use the words I've shown above we're just not living up to the call. We realize that 'why don't you just keep your slutty legs shut.' is not a reasonable solution to lowering the number of abortions. We too cringe when we see 'I hope you're still proud of your birth control and abortions in hell." My blood boils as much as yours does when the words "baby killer" are strung together to describe a woman.
Though through this call to love our brothers and sisters we will not stop defending the truths we believe. I'm not suggesting we should or will cease to do so. I am suggesting, no, I'm imploring that we as Catholics, as Christians, and/or as pro-lifers step up to the plate and act in a way that is in accordance with our faith and respect for the dignity of all human life. Essentially, let's tone it down a bit. To those who have been hurt by the careless words my peers have used, I could never apologize enough. Please know that you are loved and cared for and that all this hate spewing comes from a place of love that has gone horribly astray. We're not much different than you in that regard. We want to help and we're doing what we think is best. So when harsh words and graphic images are used it is done so from a place of love, very, very misguided love. The same kind of love that tells a 14 year old girl that her parents and police don't need to know about her 23 year old boyfriend or the abortion she now needs. We're all just trying to help.
So maybe if we can get a hold of our loud mouth friends, you could do the same. These topics can be heated enough, let alone throwing in the name calling and belittling. My promise to you is if I see these backwards representations online or in person I'll do my best to peacefully refute it. If you all could do the same hopefully the world will never have to see the phrases "baby killer," "pedophile priests," or "bigoted asshole" again.